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Blogging/GreatNorthRun

Posted by Charlee's Angels on August 13, 2015 at 1:55 AM Comments comments (1)
I do aim to blog everyday, however I am doing my best at training for the Great North Run where I aim to raise 500 to purchase a virtual doll from a company called life Choice which demonstrates what happens when a baby is shaken and what areas in the head are damaged by the head lighting up. To sponsor me for this my fundraising link is www.justgiving.com/JessiStephenson

Patience

Posted by Charlee's Angels on August 3, 2015 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

In one day I witnessed quite a few parents speak in a threatening manor to their chidren and 3 different parents threaten to smack their children in front of people. I can't even say the children were behaving particularly bad. One was just crying and as we know, violence isn't the anaswer. Even if children are being monsters, being unbearable, being needy, wanting toys etc. Adults. there is no need to behave in that manor because if you can smack a child in public, I would hate to think what goes on behind closed does. Use your words wisely!!

Trials...

Posted by Charlee's Angels on July 24, 2015 at 4:05 PM Comments comments (0)

Whether we are the family of a survivor or an angel. Theres one thing we will fight for that is JUSTICE.

It is said to be much harder to get the evidence to present for a survivor's case as vital evidence is gathered from a post-mortem. So the prosecuting side need to dig further and find way to catch the perpatrator.

I have asked individuals their stories about ustice and read Losing Patience by Jim Peinkofer and there are alway similarities in each unique case.

The abuser will always deny the abuse at the beginniing and most will continue to deny abuse all the way through, even after a prison term. Some eventually crack but they will try and blame the baby or another parent.

I would like to her your justice and/or injustice stories if you are willling to share on our forumm page.


Shaken Baby Sydrome or Non-accidental head injury

Posted by Charlee's Angels on July 24, 2015 at 4:05 AM Comments comments (0)

Shaken Baby Syndrome was changed to be known as Non-accidental head injury but families of victims refer to it as Shaken Baby Syndrome.

The 'name' was changed because it was said that 'Shaken Baby Syndrome' does not fit correctly to 'the triad' of injuries presented in each case. However, we know that SBS is caused by he violent shaing or repeated violent slamming (shaking or whiplash motion) of a baby/small child and we know this is seen in chlldren between 0-5years old.

Shaken Baby Syndrome is only one varient of Non-accidental head injury therefore should still be refered to as Shaken Baby Syndrome to avoid confusion.



So many questions..

Posted by Charlee's Angels on July 20, 2015 at 5:05 PM Comments comments (0)

How can you say goodbye when you've barely said hello? 

How can you trust when you have been betrayed?

How can you hurt someone your supposed to love?

How can you smile when your hearts in a thousand pieces?

So many questions and never the right answers. Only... people always say time heals.

I say time soothes. Only you can make it heal xx

Life as it would have been

Posted by Charlee's Angels on July 12, 2015 at 3:55 PM Comments comments (0)
We talk about Shaken Baby Syndrome and about victims- survivors and angels Then when we talk about sentencing and justice .. What sentence is long enough?? A life for a life in all cases in my opinion.. Shaken baby syndrome causes 1 in 4 victims to Die and leaves others with servere disabilities. Life as it could have been just doesn't exist anymore for a shaken baby victim.. That isn't the life they were born into... For example: 9 years for manslaughter and the perp will only serve 4 and a half yet a child life has been taken Or 4 years (only serve 2) for GBH or ABH when s child has been left server left serverely disabled and also the parent left to pick up the pieces life is completely taken by that dependant child. A life sentence should be put in place for all child abusers! These people should never be given the "chance" to start a new life! They shouldn't be given any second chances! So if an abusers is let back out into the open around other children.

Trust

Posted by Charlee's Angels on July 11, 2015 at 2:45 PM Comments comments (0)

Think you know someone? Who would you trust enough to leave your baby with them?

Anyone can shake a baby and that's a fact. We know the triggers that can cause someone to shake or slam a baby violently. It could be a long term partner, the biologocal parent, a mother, a father, siblings, carers, neighbours, baby sitters anyone.

You can't live you life scared to leave your child with anyone but be SBS aware when you do? Think of any risks, The adult may be a generally stressful person or in a mood that is completely out of character OR baby may be under the weather and unsettled.

Of course you don't know that someone is capable of shaking a baby but make them SBS aware to! because if something does happen, they aren't going to admit to a shaking event.


The Facts

Posted by Charlee's Angels on July 10, 2015 at 6:05 PM Comments comments (0)

One in Four victims don't survive

 

Survivors are usually left with long term disabilities such as paralysis, brain damage, blindness, seizures, epilepsy, autism, cerebral palsy, there are many long term consequences.

 

Cases have been seen in children from birth to 5 years old.

 

Common triggers include inconsolable crying and potty training difficulties.

 

Anyone can shake a baby, but there is always someone who can help!

 

The Facts!

Posted by Charlee's Angels on July 10, 2015 at 5:55 PM Comments comments (0)

One in Four victims don't survive

 

Survivors are usually left with long term disabilities such as paralysis, brain damage, blindness, seizures, epilepsy, autism, cerebral palsy, there are many long term consequences.

 

*Cases have been seen in children from birth to 5 years old.

 

Common triggers include inconsolable crying and potty training difficulties.

 

Anyone can shake a baby, but there is always someone who can help!

 

Strength of a Family

Posted by Charlee's Angels on July 5, 2015 at 3:50 PM Comments comments (0)

I visited the William's family last week. I was so inspired by two loving and doting parents who have given a life to Joshua who cannot do anything for himself. I witnessed them get him out of bed and into his chair, set his feed up and how they spoke to him. I observed the tenderness and love that was shared between Joshua and his younger siblings.

I cannot thank Ady and Lorraine enough for inviting me to share the special milestone and occasion of Joshua's 16th Birthday

As I write this tears stroll down my face to think of what happened almost 16 years ago to take the life of the boy that could have been to turn him into the soldier he is today but regardless of all the negative in his life the power of positive takes over.  

 "When you figure out love is all that matters afterall,

  it sure makes everything else, seem so small"

                          ~Carrie Underwood, So Small

Time to calm

Posted by Charlee's Angels on June 22, 2015 at 4:00 PM Comments comments (0)
10 .... 9...... 8 ....... 7..... 6.....5......4......3.......2.......1 A count down to calm... Have you checked babies basic needs.... *see site home page Is baby feeling unwell... Is he/she too hot/cold, Remember those teeth could be coming through... Does baby have a dummy... Still crying?? Are you starting to get agitated?? Make sure baby is safe and take a few minutes out of the room Go back and start again... Or don't be affraid to ask for help...

Taboo???

Posted by Charlee's Angels on June 20, 2015 at 5:50 AM Comments comments (0)
Why are people so scetchy about talking about Shaken Baby Syndrome, it should not be a taboo subject because it happens more often than we think, there are over 200 cases in the UK alone every year. But not all cases make the courts. It's a shocking revelation that unless the victim dies, it's harder to prove that SBS occured because an autopsy can not be performed. Defence teams will pull out all the stops and loop holes to set a guilty party free, I can't understand, do these defence lawyers have children? If so how do they sleep?

Who do I turn to?

Posted by Charlee's Angels on June 18, 2015 at 1:25 AM Comments comments (0)
Don't think about people judging you on your parenting Skills... There are people you can turn to in you moments of need! I can remember after my grandad passed away and I was so upset I couldn't sleep... My little boy was crying and I felt I couldn't cope.. I phone my mum and she came and picked us up... I was a 17 year old mum...with a 1 1/2 month old..! If you look.to our home page there are recommendations of who you can turn to! A number for Cry-sis and. Helpful parent tools to try to soothe your baby. If you have tried everything and are becoming more stressed... Anxious.... Frustrated... Put baby down and walk away... Allow yourself time to compose yourself.. There is nothing wrong with letting baby cry it out but check on baby at regular intervals..every.5-6 minutes.. And remember that crying is the only way baby can communicate there needs .... For toddlers....it can be behavioural ... Leave them in a safe room such as the living room, close the door allow time to finish seething... Return in a few minutes ... Never Shake

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Posted by Charlee's Angels on June 18, 2015 at 1:20 AM Comments comments (0)
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Won't wont he stop crying??

Posted by Charlee's Angels on June 17, 2015 at 1:35 AM Comments comments (0)
There are so many men, woman and carers out there who don't know babies cries and can easily become anxious and frustrated by being unable to calm or soothe the baby? ... Ask yourself "what would I do?" Maybe you know someone who needs this support ... Go and tell them where the support is... On our website

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